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Vulnerability is sexy, this tends to be one of the factors that I look for...but recently, I realised that plain vulnerability has lost much of its appeal to me. Gone is the 17 yr old boy who believes that, 'man are always superior to woman.' I cannot see myself believing in this absurd idea. Perhaps, by the age of 24, my contact with the fairer sex has been so frequent that this flawed idea just suffered a natural death. Now, vulnerabilty is not sexy, but vulnerability of a strong woman is sexy. That emotional strength of a woman is such a big draw especially when she has some vulnerability pegged to it. I still do not want a strong, independent woman who can handle every and anything in this world. But, to need help and support in every and anything is not exactly a draw. I still believe that as a man, you need to be strong, have broad shoulders and deal with anything and everything that comes your way. For that's what men are for, isn't it? We cannot afford to be weak. Yet, there are times in life where even strong men have their off days and weaknesses.
I guess, I don't really mind a career woman anymore. I am not even fixated about the idea of wishing that my wife would be a housewife next time. The fact that a girl has a mind of her own is actually pretty attractive. Furthermore, in this day and age, women whom are more capable are everywhere. There's really no logic or rationale in expecting or wishing that your wife sacrifices her dreams for your sake or the family's sake. This is not the ancient times anymore, whereby women's identity is defined as an extension of her husband. That is a really sad thought.
Perhaps, my jc classmates were right back then, I was never a mcp. I was just a mcp-wannabe. Duhz, the issue that I have with both labels were the fact that they were just thrown upon me in the first few weeks of school. All because, I said that the Qing Dynasty and the Russian Tsarist regime fell largely because of women. Warped, warped reasoning. haha, now I understand why my GP teacher told me to never tackle any gender questions after marking one of my essays on it.
Women may be the fairer sex, but they are definitely not the weaker sex. :)
Wednesday, October 24, 2007
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Yeah, gender-based questions are tough. I remember choosing one such question for my JC promos or prelims, did very badly.
not just the qing dynasty nor the tsarist regime fell because of women. women has cause the downfall of countless of heroes since the beginning of history. i'm watching the conqueror's story on chU now, can see the role of women.
when finding a mate, u dont really have to have a specific to search for la, just follow ur heart, then in the end u end up with what kind of woman, then is what kind lor...
I think the irony today is that, while men try to see women as equals, while men try to sort of promote feminist movement indirectly, some women are complaining that men are not gentlemanly in their conduct. I mean, some women still feel that men should do or that for them, for instance, carrying their bags.
Probably it is a social ettique, but I don't think that's quite fair to men... I mean, women can choose to be weak one day and independent another day... and men are seemingly required to be able to switch accordingly. On the other hand, men do not have such room to switch from one mode to another, because like you said, men are required to be strong and deal with anything and everything.
Men don't see women as the weaker sex, even though some men still do... but I think the issue now is that some women still prefer to see themselves as the weaker sex, for whatever weird reasons.
Haa.. Now you know. U mai ke siao la..Get a career women so as to share your financial burden in support the flat and ur family rite.. haa Smarttt thats the way man... The man with Hidden agenda
erm, Zhixiang, I think equality is just an ideal. I guess I'm pretty much fine with the double standards bah. They do give birth at the end of the day. :p Nothing is fair in this world too. haha
Jolyn, you think too much le. An innocent person like me will not have any hidden agenda. :p
chee siong, while you say that women tend to switch from one mode to another, i'd like to say that some guys do tend to see the different modes of women, and hence leading to women needing to change from one mode to another. or maybe it's more like a chicken an egg question.
thing is that, men these days are somewhere stuck between wanting to be a nice guy yet also wanting to maintain their ego. so the men themselves also have yet found a mode they are comfortable with.
like as you mentioned some women want their men to carry bags for them, but there are also some guys who offer to carry women's bags for them.
yanwei, ya, women do have to tahan 9 months of a big belly and the painful childbirth, but don't forget, men have to endure the mood swings and stuff. you don't have to give the women that much credit la... haha~
havent seen you in such a long while. unlike hong's blog, yours is so much easier to understand. haha.
i never understood how guys can find totally vulnerable girls who aspire to stay home all her life attractive. seriously... MCP. *shakes head*
and vulnerability in strong women is attractive only when you are the only one who knows her weakness :) true?
Joan,haha, its funny that you think i give too much credit to women. But guess, too much credit is better than too little right?
:p
Louann,yah, been quite a long time since I last saw you, been bz with the crazy workload of honours year, haiz.
hmm..yah, the idea of been the only person who knows her weaknesses really appeals. :)
I see that you've sparked another debate of the sexes. Things for me are easy though. Vulnerability is sexy. Neediness isn't. Period.
gaspx... -rubx eyes-
someone did smthg to ur mind while ure asleep??!!
haha, ya, ya, perhaps your mice did something to my mind while i'm sleeping lor.
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